Totally relate to the "tons of hooks & tweaks" part. I've been using Claude Code daily to build a macOS app solo, and ended up in the same rabbit hole — hooks, FSEvents, process monitoring, all duct-taped together.
The remote/phone side I haven't solved (your Tailscale+tmux setup sounds solid for that), but the "at my desk" problem — losing track of which terminal is doing what — I ended up productizing into a small menubar app called GroAsk (groask.com). It does two things: ⌥Space to quick-launch any AI, and a dashboard showing real-time status of all Claude Code sessions so you can jump to the right terminal instantly.
Very different scope from Omnara — purely local, purely desktop, no remote/phone stuff. But for the "I have 3 sessions running and forgot which one needs me" problem it's been a huge quality of life improvement for my own workflow.
The remote/phone side I haven't solved (your Tailscale+tmux setup sounds solid for that), but the "at my desk" problem — losing track of which terminal is doing what — I ended up productizing into a small menubar app called GroAsk (groask.com). It does two things: ⌥Space to quick-launch any AI, and a dashboard showing real-time status of all Claude Code sessions so you can jump to the right terminal instantly.
Very different scope from Omnara — purely local, purely desktop, no remote/phone stuff. But for the "I have 3 sessions running and forgot which one needs me" problem it's been a huge quality of life improvement for my own workflow.