That's because the culture of the internet has changed. The innocence is lost from people, but i think reddit has swung completely to the other way, where people are no longer interested to debate, they are mostly looking for ways to report/ban you. It's exteremely cynical and lost its humour (unless you use /s you re most likely to be reported).

It will be interesting to see how lemmy goes . For me it is imnportant that it has an infinite Overton window even if it only happens on defederated edges. Popularity and reach is not everything, but the mere existence of all opinions is important