I'm really sorry for your loss. This is a "friendly" debate I've had with my brother and sister-in-law about the FIRE movement. I have all kinds of retirement funds and investments, but even before this cancer bs I've become increasingly YOLO. The past and future don't exist. Which is not to say that people shouldn't plan and make contingencies, but I agree that I think delaying all of your hopes and dreams to some future date is perilous.