Alas that is kinda hard and really impossible in this matter, but wise advice and if was an avenue, it would already be done. Really is a case of dammed if I do and dammed if I don't and picking which flavour of dammed I go with and with that, I choose the one that helps others iraspective of impact upon me. Not ideal but then, sometimes in life you just have to do the right thing whatever the personal cost involved.